“Hey all you cool cats and kittens….” okay sorry, but I had to get your attention. My oh my, how times have changed since my last entry. I’m sure by now you can go the rest of the year without hearing the words; “social distancing,” and “COVID-19,” but the truth of the matter is, this is ALL of our new normal now, and no matter how much you agree or disagree with the topic, it is affecting all of us.
I’m scared, but familiar with the way this all feels. This feeling of fear for my kid’s future, more specifically my son. I’ve been here before, and go through this state of panic and anxiety on and off. I was here when I shut myself out from the outside world once we received our autism diagnosis. Being self isolated doesn’t bother me. It almost gives me a sigh of relief. Relief from the gawking we get when my son is having a meltdown in public, relief from hearing the words; “he’s just spoiled,” or “he needs a good spanking.” Relief from hearing people ask “why does he talk like that?” and “what’s wrong with him?” Relief from the feeling of having to prove my son is on the spectrum, or on the spectrum enough. Rest assured, this stay-at-home order has given me peace from what’s going on in the outside world, and it has nothing to do with COVID-19.
We’ve been living a “new normal,” for quite some time. I will not lie. It is hard, but if I can offer any type of sentiment to someone reading this that is struggling with something…. is it gets better, (and you are definitely not alone). Not overnight, maybe not in a few weeks, but it does, and it WILL get better. You have to roll with the punches, and play with the cards you’ve been dealt. Pandemics, disabilities, and unfortunate life moments, don’t ask for permission. It’s up to us to pick ourselves up, and dust ourselves off, and keep it moving. However that may look like for you.
I will be the first to tell you, there is no right way to handle a “crisis.” If you want to eat all of your provisions, day 1, go for it- if you want to cry in the garage because your kids are bored and need their 27th snack, GO! Don’t wreck your brain trying to salvage a school schedule, teach your littles about life skills. Show them what you do on a daily basis when they are gone, or how your new office is set up, and what all you do. If you need a break, it’s okay to give them some screen time. Special needs or not, there’s a lot of energy floating around our homes right now, so if you want to crack open that cabernet sauvignon at an ungodly hour, DO IT! Just be responsible. Our little humans still need the best version of ourselves, and what we reflect and put out, they absorb.
Before our semi-isolated world turned into a total isolated world, I kept seeing all these memes and gif’s suggesting a do over for 2020. A reset. I strongly believe that this time was given to us to slow down (bright side things), reset, and recharge. Re-prioritize your life and know that what you have in this moment, is exactly what you need. There’s no time like the present to take care of all those honey to do’s, organize, clean, and get some fresh air in your own backyard. It’s tough for everyone right now, and all we are being asked to do is stay home and love on our loved ones. Know that there are people in this world that do not choose to be isolated, they literally live in fear of the outside world, and have no other choice but to confine themselves to their dwellings. Focus on the positive going on in your lives right now, celebrate the milestones being hit every single day, and be grateful!!! Be kind, and spread that kindness around safely. Have some leftovers? Take them to your neighbor who may have lost track of time. Have chalk? It’s time for an art party! Wanna watch Frozen eighty times in a row? No? Well your little does, so cuddle up and SING!!!! There’s no telling when this will all come to an end, but remember to take advantage of the time we have been given, and stay safe. Know that you are not in this alone. I know this piece was a little different than my other pieces, but I cannot deny what is going on right now. Much like Autism, it’s everywhere I turn. Sending all my love and well wishes to each and every one of you! Take care, and let’s chat soon! ❤